Communication

By not being in a relationship myself right now, it has given me ample opportunities to evaluate exactly what it is that men mean when we say different things. Every man, no matter what he says, wants to be in a relationship. Many men will say that they are happy being alone and single and that they aren’t really looking for a relationship, but the truth is, with every woman that they meet they are actively considering what their chances would be with them. Now there are some exceptions to this, for example, I would never consider dating a few of my friends, for reasons that if I did date them, would go against my morals. Such as dating a friend who was previously dating a very good friend of yours. Even if that friend of yours is no longer a very good friend.

With that said, many women have complained to me, or more just mentioned that they don’t understand men. I think I have the solution to the reasoning as to why they don’t understand men. When a man isn’t really listening real close, but is more of gazing into the beauty of the woman he is talking to, he tends to say things that are off topic, or ask questions that don’t relate to what is going on. When he doesn’t really want to try to explain something at a given time, the answer he usually gives are “I don’t know” or something that clearly isn’t the correct answer. I myself have caught myself saying “I don’t know” when I didn’t want to explain something to someone, usually when that someone is of the opposite sex.

To solve many of the problems men and women have with each other when it comes to understanding, I think we need to simply improve our communication. Communication is the binding force that keeps us all happy and together. At the same time, communication can ruin relationships, but without good communication skills, we would have no relationships to ruin.

In order to fine tune our communication skills we have to experience problems. No one starts our perfect when it comes to communicating. The best way to build your communication skills is to experience problems. This means that your first relationship won’t be the one to “seal the deal”, so to speak. You’re going to have to accept that you are going to have to date multiple people during your dating career. That is step one to building a healthy relationship. Learning to go from person to person when something doesn’t work out. That perfect person is out there somewhere just waiting for you to find them, but if you don’t have excellent communication skills, it might not work out between you two.