Temptation
Temptation, the biggest threat in any relationship. Just the thought that our partner is being tempted to betray us throws us into the biggest state of self consciousness and anger that many of us will ever experience with our relationships. No relationship is safe from it, and no one can completely resist it. We may not act upon our temptations, but we will think about our temptations, and that can still lead to problems. Early on in the relationship we aren’t as easily tempted because we are still in that “OH MY GOD I’M REALLY WITH THIS PERSON” stage in the relationship. But rest assured, or not so assured, that this stage won’t last forever. It will end eventually, and although it can come back, it will defiantly be during those periods that it’s not there that temptation kicks in the most. As the relationship lasts longer and we grow in age we tend to resist temptation more and more, yet we never fully escape it. One could say that we as humans are fascinated with temptation and how different people are affected by it, after all we do have TV shows after TV show dedicated to testing the waters and putting people into situations where we would be tempted to betray our partners. The most popular of which is “Temptation Island”. A show where 4 couples are split apart from each other to be left with 12 very sexy single people of the opposite gender for 2 weeks, with no physical contact to their significant other for that entire time. Another show, that I think shows off temptation at its finest in a semi-real life situation is called “The X-effect”. On this show, 2 couples are taken to a resort and unknown to them the ex of one of the people in each couple is in the other couple at the same resort. Long story short, the exes are put together in one room while the other 2 are in another room and are unable to make contact with their significant other. Often times what I witnessed on this show is that people tended to be unfaithful to their current relationship by going back to their ex, while the neglected significant others tent to “hook up” in their own room. It’s sad that it worked out this way, but that’s just one of the reasons why temptation is so dangerous when it comes to relationships, and probably why so many people are fascinated by it.
July 21, 2008 at 10:08 am
SM:
Hope all is well. An interesting post, and to come to think of, it, the source of some of the problems I had.
To be honest, that old friend I sought to hook up with again was never of a like mind with me. i thought of her as the Ms. Right, while it turned out that she was more about Mr. Right Now. Oh, there was passion involved in the moment was true for both of us… but while I had pined away for years, she had been involved in no less that 11 affairs since myself – all of which she had hidden from her husband. It also turned out she had done the same thing for a string of years before me – but which I only found out about very recently.
Her divorce becomes final this morning in about 30 muntes. But the funny thing is, while she claims emotional abuse as the reason for the divorce (and even filed a TRO against her soon to be ex), her husband was just getting mad on her for cheating on him, continuously – and it turns out he was right all along.
I now consider myself a very lucky man, for having dodged a bullet. Someone who has exhibited that pattern of behavior (attract someone, get into a relationship, and then move on when someone else catches their eye) would not have changed, even if they became involved with me.
Now comes the hard part – I need to perform some sort of emotional exorcism to get rid of these feelings I had for her. Any ideas or suggestions on that?
The Perfect Imp
August 16, 2008 at 5:56 am
First of all I’d like to say that I really like your blog and the issues you touch.
I think temptation has been and will always be important threat to even strong relationship. No matter how much you trust each other, eleminating that 1% of probable situation can be fatal